A particular kind of ache shows up around midlife. Not a crisis in the dramatic sense, more like a quiet, insistent knock. The relationship that used to work no longer works the same way. The person you built a life with feels like a stranger some evenings, or you find yourself wondering if you even know who you are outside of the roles you’ve been playing. Old patterns you thought you’d outgrown resurface, usually at the worst possible moment — mid-argument, mid-silence, mid-sex.

If you’re near, in, or past that particular season, you already know: this isn’t really about your partner, family, or friends circle, or the lack of one. It’s about the relationship underneath all your relationships — the one with yourself — finally asking to be renegotiated.

I work with people who are ready to have that conversation. Not in theory. In the room, or on the screen, with me, one honest sentence at a time.

You’re around or past midlife (approx. 35 and beyond). Something has shifted — maybe abruptly, maybe so slowly you only noticed in hindsight — and you can feel that the old ways of coping, adapting, or keeping the peace aren’t serving you anymore. You want:

• A relationship, current or future, that doesn’t require you to abandon yourself to keep it.
• To understand the patterns — the ones that go back further than this relationship, probably further than you’d like — that keep showing up uninvited.
• Real intimacy: to be touched, seen, wanted, and known, without the old reflex to perform, please, or disappear.
• More ease in your own skin. Less second-guessing. A steadier sense of your own worth that doesn’t depend on someone else confirming it first.

You might be doing this work alone, or alongside a partner. Either way, the starting point is the same: you, in relationship with yourself, first.

Not “communication skills.” Not a checklist. We go underneath: to the attachment wounds and the conditioning, often formed decades before the relationship you’re in now, that quietly decide how much closeness feels safe, how quickly you retreat, what you tolerate, and what you never let yourself ask for.

This is where emotional maturity actually gets built: not by trying harder to be a good partner, but by getting honest about the survival mechanisms that once protected you and now stand between you and the intimacy you’re actually looking for. Grief tends to live in this territory too — grief for relationships that ended, for versions of yourself you had to leave behind, for time that felt lost. We make room for that, rather than rushing past it toward a fix.

For couples, this means learning to meet each other as two adults with real histories, rather than two nervous systems reacting to each other’s oldest wounds. For individuals, it often means finally becoming the steady presence for yourself that you spent a long time hoping someone else would be.

I trained as a mindfulness-based cognitive therapist (MBCT), grief counselor, relationship coach, and life coach, which means I don’t work from one narrow lens. I bring whatever the moment actually calls for, whether that’s staying with a feeling long enough to let it complete, naming a pattern out loud so it loses some of its grip, or simply asking the question underneath the question.

I’m not interested in performing expertise at you. I’m interested in building the kind of trust where you can actually say the thing you haven’t said yet: to me, and eventually, to the people who matter to you.

Individual sessions — for your relationship with yourself, which is the foundation everything else gets built on, whether or not there’s a partner in the picture right now.

Couples sessions — for two people ready to look honestly at the patterns between them, with someone in the room who isn’t invested in either of you “winning.”

Or a combination.

Sessions happen in whatever format actually works for the trust we’re building:

• Online, via Zoom or WhatsApp video, wherever you are.
• In person, in the quiet upstairs room at my home practice (8470 Gistel).
• Out in the world, over a coffee, drink, or lunch, if you’re near Ostend, Bruges, Kortrijk, or Ghent (Belgium) and that feels like the easier way in. Sometimes I travel, which brings opportunities to meet in person abroad.

Languages: English (2nd language) or Dutch (native language).

A relationship — including the one you’re building with a therapist — isn’t established in a single hour. Most of the people I work with commit to a series of sessions rather than a one-off, both because the work goes deeper that way and because it’s simply more affordable.

• Single session of 75 minutes — € 130.00 (individual) / € 180.00 (couples)
• Package of 6 sessions — € 690.00 (individual) / € 990.00 (couples)

Prices include 21% VAT.

Is this therapy, or coaching?
Both, honestly, depending on what the moment calls for. I hold trauma-informed, mindfulness-based training, but I’m not going to make you sit in a clinical frame if what you need is a direct, practical conversation. What matters is that the work goes as deep as you’re ready for.

My partner won’t come to couples sessions — can I still start?
Yes. Individual work on your own patterns changes the relationship whether or not your partner is in the room, and it’s often what makes a future couples conversation possible.

How long before I feel a difference?
Some people feel something shift after one honest conversation. The patterns you’re here to work on took years to build, though, so I’d rather be honest: sustainable change tends to show up over a series of sessions and takes time, not a single one.

Do you work with men specifically?
I work with anyone ready to do this work with real honesty. That said, a big part of what brought me to this work is walking alongside men navigating exactly this territory — the relationship with themselves, first — and I hold particular care for that. Of course, as a woman, my personal experience is different, so, for some men, benefiting from therapy with a male guide could be more suitable (or both).

If any of this landed, the next step is just a conversation — not a commitment.
Tell me a little about where you are right now. I’ll respond myself, and we’ll figure out together whether this is the right fit.

Charlotte Boogaerts (Belgium) — “Daisy shares honestly from her own experiences and looks at situations with great understanding. I am 100% certain she only wants the best for the people she works with.”

Ivana Kraljic Sioban (Croatia) — “It was like a conversation between two friends. Simple but full of information; simple but so powerful. You don’t pretend to have all the answers, and I also appreciate how you investigate your own experiences. For me, that is true mastery.”